Saturday, March 16, 2024

UNITED NATIONS INTERNATIONAL DAY OF HAPPINESS (March 20 2024) How happy are you - and the people around you?

 UN INTERNATIONAL DAY OF HAPPINESS (March 20, 2024) 

HAPPINESS - A Reflection in the Golden Years of Life

"Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared." - Buddha

Happier Together
The International Day of Happiness is celebrated on March 20th every year. It was proclaimed by the General Assembly of the United Nations in 20121. The day recognizes the relevance of happiness and well-being as universal goals and aspirations in the lives of human beings around the world and the importance of their recognition in public policy objectives. The theme for the  International Day of Happiness 2024 is "Happier Together", which reminds us that lasting happiness comes from feeling connected to others and being part of something bigger.

Dr Abe V Rotor
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NOTE: Dedicated to Efren and Louisa Tagudin on the occasion of their Golden Wedding Anniversary  June 2, 2019. Efren and Loy brought on their 50th wedding anniversary the Sydney Sonata Singers and performed before their guests to their delight and pride as Filipinos. As choirmaster, Loy rekindled the spirit of nationalism and love for our traditional culture and history with Philippine patriotic songs. Efren and Loy and company are indeed ambassadors of goodwill committed to sowing and spreading happiness, touching the lives of many people, to those present on their golden anniversary, and people they had met during their tour on the countryside. It is this primary reason I chose the topic of Happiness as the theme of their anniversary and in the course of their visit and tour in their home country. Which gives a new sense to the meaning of balikbayan. To me and my wife it is a happy meeting with Efren, a co-worker in government after three decades since our early retirement. It is both reliving the wonderful past, and  cherishing the golden years of life.   Many thanks to the Sydney Sonata Singers for performing at the author's family residence in San Vicente, Ilocos Sur in June 2019.

Efren and Loy cut their wedding cake as they did fifty-five years ago today.  
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What is the secret of reaching the golden years of life? More so to keep afresh 50 years of married life? And going?

There’s a keyword for it. It is a commodity that when you divide it, will multiply. And the product or sum is more that its parts, a phenomenon called synergy.

Happiness. Divide it and it will multiply and the curve is an inverted C. By the way, how many words can you form out of the word HAPPINESS? Anagram. There are 239. 

Happiness comes also as Good Luck, Good Fortune, prosperity. It comes in greetings, welcome, celebrations, welcome, farewell, and many others. Sometimes it comes casually. “Gusto ko happy ka.” Happy is universal in different languages and dialects. (In Ilocano happiest is one level higher - Kararagsakan)
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“Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone, “says the poet Ella Wilcox.
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What is happiness really? “Happiness is, to great men and women, a motivating force to achievement and not its own result; of making others and not oneself feel happy and successful, of being treated fairly, of being cared for; of reaching out for a cause with great determination, and whether one succeeds or not, finds fulfillment at the end. Happiness is... what makes this world a better place to live in - indeed a mark of greatness of anyone who can contribute to it in his or her own way.”

Happiness is the key to the attainment a successful marriage that lasted for 50 years and going, for Efren and Louisa.

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. A variety of biological, psychological, religious, and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources. Various research groups, including positive psychology, endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what "happiness" is, and how it might be attained. It is of such fundamental importance to the human condition that "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" were deemed to be unalienable rights by the United States Declaration of Independence. (Happiness: Wikipedia,)

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success . if you love what you are doing, you will be successful.  I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.Albert Schweitzer

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. 
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? All men have a sweetness in their life. That is what helps them go on. It is towards that they turn when they feel too worn out.”
 -  Albert Camus 

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one's family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one's own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him

Have you heard of a measure of growth and development based on people's happiness?

Well, it is called Gross National Happiness (GNH) by Bhutan, the proponent of the idea. It is more than people's welfare which is the aim of Human Development Index (HDI).  And it is a radical alternative to Gross National Product (GNP) which is a broad and unqualified gross measure of a country's economic growth. 
 

Bhutan's bold attempt to quantify national well-being and achieve sustainable
development (Gross National Happiness Index) is opening the eyes of the world to the paradox that rising incomes don't bring happiness (Easterlin Paradox, named for American economist Richard Easterlin).  

 Happy Bhutanese people in their native costumes

This is a long known fact but it was shrouded by an apparently progressive capitalistic world  in the last three decades - until recently – when economic crisis gripped the most progressive countries led by the US and members of the European Union, now affecting other countries, among them the Philippines. 

Filipinos are naturally a happy people
amidst hardship and difficulties in life. 

The paradox is steadily being felt in China as it replaced Japan as the second biggest economy of the world. And the new tiger economies as well -  Singapore, Korea, Taiwan, including India which is 
an upcoming technology giant.

(Singapore Survey: Less than a third of the population doesn’t like to live to a 100 years.)

Unhappiness has been the cause of depression, and depression often leads to self-destruction. Rising incomes, if taken as an analogy to Easterlin Paradox, increases the rate of depression and therefore suicide.  Thus the highest rate of suicide in the world has been observed in highly industrialized countries like Japan, the US and UK, with victims that include young men and women in the prime of their careers, and set to "conquer the world" but have failed to meet their aspirations.

GNH is a Eastern alternative to pressures of the materialistic Western world. The new measure aims at reducing pressure of living on the fast lane. It reduces the influx to cities and consequential buildup of urban marginal communities. It holds on to time-tested, community-based living. It is an alternative to a stressful life, and pressures of  competition.  






















To make GNH workable, Bhutan is adopting a program based on four pillars, namely
  • sustainable economic development
  • conservation of the environment
  • preservation of culture
  • good governance
What is happiness sought for by a people, by a nation or region? It is really more than material benefit.  It is more than growth of institutions.  Of high rise buildings and wide avenues. It is something that elevates the human spirit on a higher level, albeit religiosity.  It is something that speaks of now and tomorrow, of the welfare of our children and children's children. 

Translated to the individual person, happiness may be gauged by his answers to these simple questions often encountered in daily living.
  • "How many people can you count on for help in case you get sick?" 
  • "How often do you eat meals together as a family?"
  • "How restful can you be after a weekend?"
  • "How comfortable are you with the level of household debt?"
  • "How satisfied are you in your present work.?"
  • "How often do to take time out with the kids?"
  • "How comfortable are you at home? In the neighborhood?"
  • "How secure are you with your income?  Savings?"
  • "How fulfilled are you your career? Livelihood?  Vocation?"  
  • "How satisfied are you with you community's governance?" 
  •  "How satisfied are you in sharing your talents and resources?  
  •  "How well preserved is your natural environment?  
Maybe we might as well ask
  • "How happy did you feel yesterday?"
  • "How satisfied are you with life today.?
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Happiness is …. 

Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life. Omar Khayyam (PHOTO FROM RUBAIYAT)

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. Dale Carnegie

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved. George Sand

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. Albert Schweitzer

Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. Franklin D. Roosevelt

The secret to happiness is freedom... And the secret to freedom is courage. Thucydides

A grateful heart is a beginning of greatness. It is an expression of humility. It is a foundation for the development of such virtues as prayer, faith, courage, contentment, happiness, love, and well-being. James E. Faust

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Gandhi

Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. Nathaniel Hawthorne

Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness, of hatred, of jealousy, and, most easily of all, the gate of fear. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. Albert Camus

Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go. Oscar Wilde


We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Thomas Jefferson

True happiness is... to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Happiness depends upon ourselves. Aristotle

Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul. Democritus

Joy can only be real if people look upon their life as a service and have a definite object in life outside themselves and their personal happiness. Leo Tolstoy

Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know. Ernest Hemingway

The happiness of the bee and the dolphin is to exist. For man it is to know that and to wonder at it. Jacques Yves Cousteau

A happy life must be to a great extent a quiet life, for it is only in an atmosphere of quiet that true joy dare live. Bertrand Russell

“The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only make others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”  Dalai Lama

A table, a chair, a bowl of fruit and a violin; what else does a man need to be happy? Albert Einstein

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The United Nations declared 20 March the International Day of Happiness to recognize the relevance of happiness and well being as universal goals. 

Parameters of Happiness of GNH Index:
1. Psychological Well-Being
2. Health
3. Time Use
4. Education
5. Cultural Diversity
6. Good Governance
7. Community Vitality
8. Ecological Diversity and Resilience
9. Living Standards
10. Family
11. Spirituality
12. Sense of Achievement

Self-evaluation: Rate yourself using the Likert Scale: 1 Very Poor, 2 Poor, 3 Fair, 4 Good, and 5 Very Good. 

Compute the average by adding the values of all the parameter, and divide it sum with 12. This is the general perception of happiness of the person concerned. What is equally - if not more important - is in being able to find out the main source of happiness, at the same time, the least. This exercise therefore, is aimed at re-affirming our sense of values in the pursuit of happiness. So does a community. 

We say we are happy, or a little happy. Or unhappy. Or sad. But how can we quantify happiness like in a grading system?

The founding father of happiness research, Dr Happiness himself - Dr Edward Diener of the University of Illinois.* calls this technique The Satisfaction with Life Scale.

This test can be used in the classroom, in meetings and conferences, or just for the sake of bonding with friends and associates.
On a piece of paper rate yourself in each of the following items. Use a scale of 1 to 7, where 1 is not true at all, 4 is moderately true and 7 absolutely true. The scale allows you to approximate closer to your self-judgment.
 
  
  Integrated art workshop for children conducted by senior citizens. Graduation with Vice Mayor Nancy Tabanda and OSCA Chair Dr Peroma L Pacis as guests in the workshop graduation. San Vicente, IS 2016

Here are the criteria:

1. In most ways my life is close to my ideal.
2. The conditions of my life are excellent.
3. I am satisfied with my life.
 
4. So far I have gotten the important things I want in life.
5. If I could live my life over, I would change almost nothing.

Compute for the total score by adding all values from the five questions. Here is the interpretation of your score.

· If you got 31 to 35, you are extremely satisfied with your life. Kudos!
· If you got 26 to 30, you are very satisfied with your life.
· If you scored 21 to 25, you are slightly satisfied. Two participants got scores on this level.
· Those who scored 15 to 19 (slightly dissatisfied) will have to perk up and unload some reasons. Get to the neutral point which is 20, and thence move up the happiness ladder.

It's not hopeless if you got low. The idea of this exercise is to create awareness that there are avenues of happiness, and that there are basic levels of happiness that one can cling to, and say, "Oh well, that's life." And still manage to laugh. And the world laughs with you. “Laugh and the world laughs with you.  Weep and you will weep alone.” Ella Wilcox ~

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